Saying Goodbye to Your Pet

Maybe one of the most difficult decisions you have ever had to make.

When is the right time? For many people this decision is complex, overwhelming, and includes a number of factors.

You have taken great care of your pet. Considering the very question of when to say goodbye is yet another example of the love and care you have for your furry friend.

Only you will make the final decision, but know that you have support in this and it can be very helpful to talk to others. Family. Friends. A veterinarian.

Even if it is not obvious your pet is suffering, using a quality of life assessment tool can help you decide. Having each member of the family complete one may help you get the most information.

If you still have questions after you have used the quality of life assessment tool, make an appointment with your vet to get a professional opinion about your pets current condition. Weighing your options is important to do.

A veterinarian can help you determine if there are other medical treatments to consider, or if your pet is suffering to the degree that euthanasia would be the best option.

It’s not what you want to hear. Now what?

If you have determined your pet’s quality of life is low, deciding when and where to say goodbye to your pet is the next step.

Do you want to be there when your pet is euthanized?

Do you want to have a veterinarian come to your house for the euthanasia?

Do you want to be at the vet office?

These are all personal decisions that are hard to make. No answer is the right or wrong answer.

If you can, make a choice to end your fur baby’s life on a “good” day, before their quality of life is poor. It won’t be easy, but maybe it can be a little more comforting to you if you know you didn’t wait too long.

Leading up to your euthanasia appointment, spoil your pet.

Let them on the couch. Give them extra brushing and petting. If your veterinarian says its ok, feed them a hamburger or another something they will love.

Thank them. Apologize to them. If you can, make your last moments together without regret.

This isn’t easy.

Considering euthanasia for your pet may contribute to what is called anticipatory grief. Anticipatory grief is a grief that begins before your beloved animal or person is gone. Knowing your pet may be suffering can contribute to the anticipation of that loss.

It may be a good time to get yourself support. Contact family, friends, and perhaps a counselor.

Counseling can help not only with what is challenging now, but also with any future losses you may have in your life.

Kate Williams is a licensed counselor who specializes in grief and loss. Reach out today if you would like more information about her support services for pet loss.